00:47:18 Christian: A lot of us experience those symptoms 00:48:00 Crystal Le Fay: Sounds good 00:50:03 Clay CA: I'm having a hard time reading the slides with all of the extra things on the screen. 00:55:27 Zoom user: Hello Happy People, Kathryn Davis here. Poor wifi so no vid today. Love this work! 01:02:14 Breanne Boyle: Holidays can be stressful. 01:03:07 Pilar: For me holidays always stressful, not just sometimes. So many expectations on your behavior 01:03:27 Breanne Boyle: My family isn’t very understanding of my TBI and don’t realize how it affects me daily (or don’t recognize it, even if I tell them). I always have to be prepared for that and step away, if needed. 01:03:54 Pilar: Replying to "My family isn’t very..." I hope they get to the point where they “get it” as much as they can 01:04:24 Breanne Boyle: Replying to "My family isn’t very..." Me too, but it’s been two years and it’s a whole thing. I just find support and comfort elsewhere. Can’t choose family, but you can choose friends. <3 01:04:31 Christian: I usually sleep through family deals 01:04:41 Beatrice: It's even more stressful when you are dealing with friends/family with mental health struggles of their own and you are not only responsible for managing your emotions, but that of others! 01:04:51 Pilar: Replying to "My family isn’t very..." i get it, its taken me years for family to understand / accept it, but still times when they forget 01:05:02 Breanne Boyle: Reacted to "I usually sleep thro..." with ❤️ 01:05:09 Breanne Boyle: Reacted to "It's even more stres..." with ❤️ 01:05:15 Breanne Boyle: Replying to "It's even more stres..." That is hard. 01:06:22 Pilar: i think also you have burned in memories of childhood from holidays. For me I’m kinda PTSD from divorced family guilting me about “who I spent holiday with last year…blah blah blah, 01:08:09 Pilar: Replying to "I usually sleep thro..." Great idea 01:08:11 Pilar: Replying to "I usually sleep thro..." LOL 01:08:32 Breanne Boyle: Replying to "i think also you hav..." That is tough when you have memories that are so positive and then that changes. It’s a hard thing. 01:08:38 Kirk Paige: Got to leave now. I agree Family get togethers are very stressful, especially when I am the one to host because our house is big enough to gather everyone in. 😂 01:08:48 Breanne Boyle: Reacted to "Got to leave now. I ..." with ❤️ 01:09:43 Breanne Boyle: Literally my mom is a trigger. So that’s fun! Lol. 01:12:18 Pilar: Replying to "i think also you hav..." Totally that too, I think its a double whammy, like if you had pleasant memories then you might not be feeling that now, or if you had abusive/ difficult ones you just remember that, even if the people aren’t around anymore 01:12:56 Pilar: Replying to "Literally my mom is ..." my life 01:13:26 Pilar: Replying to "Literally my mom is ..." I used tow roc with my therapist on how I would manage my moms comments before I went to see her. I am still doing that now. 01:13:26 Beatrice: I've learned that when a family member is a trigger, I have decided to accept they are who they are and I cannot change them. It is my decision to either engage with that person as who they are or if it's not worth it. 01:13:36 Breanne Boyle: Reacted to "I've learned that wh..." with ❤️ 01:13:44 Pilar: Reacted to "I've learned that wh..." with 👍 01:14:01 Pilar: Replying to "Literally my mom is ..." typo used to work with therapist 01:14:49 Breanne Boyle: Replying to "Literally my mom is ..." Oh I meet with my therapist 2x/month and we mostly talk about my mom. Lol. What a trope, right? We also talk about my TBI. 01:15:32 Beatrice: and you cannot rationalize with irrational individuals. So it's not worth trying to explain your point. 01:15:43 Breanne Boyle: Reacted to "and you cannot ratio..." with ❤️ 01:15:59 Pilar: Replying to "Literally my mom is ..." Its so annoying I get it. Its good you are working on it at least. I remember asking my therapist, um I’m 40 and still have mom issues (I’m 54 now) , when will this be over? And she said never, some clients are in their 70s working on it. But she said u can get much better. I deal with her much better now 01:16:29 Rob N: I feel exactly the same way. I have figured out I only do what doesn’t trigger me 01:17:20 Breanne Boyle: Replying to "Literally my mom is ..." Ugh, I know this will be forever. I was 39 when I finally sought some therapy, which has been really helpful. 01:18:09 Rob N: Family is my biggest challenge 01:18:34 Beatrice: Replying to "Literally my mom is ..." It's never to late to seek therapy! so glad you have a safe space to process it all! 01:19:00 Breanne Boyle: Reacted to "It's never to late t..." with ❤️ 01:19:59 Clay CA: I've got an important appointment to go to. Thank you everyone for being here 🙏 01:20:23 Breanne Boyle: Reacted to "I've got an importan..." with ❤️ 01:21:42 James Manley: Lou I'm glad you're open to using friends to help when they offer 01:24:22 Crystal Le Fay: I got ADHD from my TBI 01:25:37 Breanne Boyle: Reacted to "Lou I'm glad you're ..." with ❤️ 01:26:47 Breanne Boyle: Replying to "I got ADHD from my T..." That is super interesting. I have had it my whole life and struggled and finally reached out to help. I am on meds now and it is so much better. You might consider stimulant medications if your doctor agrees. Stimulant/ADHD meds can actually help TBI symptoms as well. 01:26:54 James Manley: Breanne, I liked what you did. 01:26:59 Breanne Boyle: Reacted to "Breanne, I liked wha..." with ❤️ 01:27:29 Pilar: Way more aware I think 01:27:41 Denise: Reacted to "I got ADHD from my T..." with ❤️ 01:28:04 Carol Lake: Great Job, Breanne 01:28:20 Crystal Le Fay: Replying to "I got ADHD from my T..." I'm doing all my hea... 01:29:23 Cindy Hernandez: Me to 5 years 01:29:41 Cindy Hernandez: Me to I go outside on break 01:30:36 Crystal Le Fay: Replying to "I got ADHD from my T..." Pharmaceuticals trig... 01:30:43 Pilar: Replying to "I got ADHD from my T..." @Crystal Le Fay I just looked you up, very cool what you are doing 01:32:58 Crystal Le Fay: @Chrissy Wolf Thankyou 01:34:06 Breanne Boyle: Reacted to "Great Job, Breanne" with ❤️ 01:34:16 Crystal Le Fay: Replying to "I got ADHD from my T..." @Pilar thankyou. I t... 01:34:39 Breanne Boyle: Replying to "I got ADHD from my T..." You need to do what works for you! That is great. I hope the ADHD journey goes smoothly for you. 01:36:37 Crystal Le Fay: Replying to "I got ADHD from my T..." @Breanne Boyle I act... 01:36:57 Beatrice: So true Cisco! My reaction is to laugh during difficult/stressful situations, which is not appropriate when dealing with an angry client!